In the Bible, humankind’s first assignment from the Divine was to name everything. Whether I believe that Adam and the Garden of Eden ever existed or not, the symbolism/lesson is obvious. Names are significant to Christ’s followers and everyone who has ever lived regardless of religion or no religion. Names provide the anchor for our…
Tag: former exgay
Are You ‘Disgusted’ With Me? This Guy Sure Is…
If you would like to share your thoughts of the movie “Pray Away” or ask any questions about my life or the topics at hand (I am an open book!) you can contact me here. I would love to hear from you. I have gotten plenty of messages like this so I decided to respond…
Don’t Fret Susan, Jesus & I Are Great!
I have wanted to but wrestled with responding to this comment. However, I am going to because of the ex-gay/conversion ministry messaging in it; Susan E. writes: I read through your entire blog and it reveals that God is not and never was enough for you. Giving in to sin and justifying it before people…
Sunday Morning Musings: There Was Not A “Fall” from Grace, I Moved Forward in Christ
Ex-gay/Conversion Ministry Leader Linda Seiler wrote what I would consider a condescending note on Facebook titled, “Why Ex-gay Leaders Go Back.” When I wrote a similar article to hers back in the day, I feared that the leaders who left our ranks were leading people astray with substantial consequences. Unfortunately, from what Linda wrote, it…
“Pride” Podcast picks up Interview with Anne Heche
I am honored that Pride podcast picked up the interview I did with Anne Heche and Heather Duffy Boylston. Conversion therapy must end, we must stop the toxic ideology that stigmatizes LGBTQ+ people and our relationships. Many people never thought I would make it out of that world, but my heart and mind changed drastically…
On “Better Together with Anne & Heather” Show (Full Video)
I thoroughly enjoyed this interview. For such an intense topic, they asked great questions and we even got in a few laughs. Thank you Anne and Heather!
A Perilous Journey to Authenticity: My Survival Story
Since the Pray Away film was released, I get asked the following questions series frequently. “How did you go from being out in the ’80s and back in the closet born again Christian in the ’90s. Then go to upper echelon leader of the exgay movement in the ’00s to be the EVP of Exodus and help…
And “Such Were Some of You;” Unpacking Exgay Speak
I am not a theologian nor the son of one. I don’t particularly appreciate getting into theological debates and now refuse to get into them. While I know my Bible backward and forwards, getting into theological “discussions” (for me) is like eating glass. Then, while chewing on the shards, people complain, criticize, and argue about…
“Dear SBC Pastor…”
This letter was sent originally through the Tyler Clementi Foundation’s “True Faith Doesn’t Bully” campaign in September. Please read the outpouring of love and letters from the LGBTQ+ and ally community by clicking here. Letter from Randy Thomas, Former VP of Exodus International. Dear Pastor, My name is Randy Thomas, and I am writing to…
A Couple of Thoughts Since The Release of “Pray Away”
Many topics and themes have come up consistently since the release of Pray Away Film last Tuesday. In this video I quickly address two of them: some hate from current exgay leaders and the sweet concern from many around the world for my welfare. Thanks in advance for watching and as always, feedback and questions…
What Are They Talking About? An Abridged List Of Conversion Therapy Speak
The language that conversion therapy groups, especially exgay ministries, can be confounding, confusing, and in some cases frustratingly offensive. Friends suggested that I write a post explaining exgay-speak, seeing as I helped coin some of it back in the day and spoke it for over two decades. So here is an abridged list of phrases,…
We Are Not Broken
“There is nothing to prove and nothing to protect. I am who I am, and it’s enough.” ― Fr. Richard Rohr Let’s start this article with something simple to say, yet so many of us have struggled a lifetime to embrace: *You* are not broken. *I* am not broken. *We* are human. We are beings…