And “Such Were Some of You;” Unpacking Exgay Speak

I am not a theologian nor the son of one. I don’t particularly appreciate getting into theological debates and now refuse to get into them. While I know my Bible backward and forwards, getting into theological “discussions” (for me) is like eating glass. Then, while chewing on the shards, people complain, criticize, and argue about…

“Dear SBC Pastor…”

This letter was sent originally through the Tyler Clementi Foundation’s “True Faith Doesn’t Bully” campaign in September. Please read the outpouring of love and letters from the LGBTQ+ and ally community by clicking here. Letter from Randy Thomas, Former VP of Exodus International. Dear Pastor, My name is Randy Thomas, and I am writing to…

What Are They Talking About? An Abridged List Of Conversion Therapy Speak

The language that conversion therapy groups, especially exgay ministries, can be confounding, confusing, and in some cases frustratingly offensive. Friends suggested that I write a post explaining exgay-speak, seeing as I helped coin some of it back in the day and spoke it for over two decades. So here is an abridged list of phrases,…

The Many Faces of Conversion Therapy May Surprise You

Trigger Warning for Survivors: This article, while careful writing was used in a way to try and protect survivors of conversion therapy, it is still going to possibly trigger readers who are survivors. If you decide to read, you may remember experiences with people described in one or more of the below groups. Please take…

A Challenge to Current Conversion Therapy/Exgay Ministry Leaders

Next Wednesday, Pray Away will have its world premiere at the Tribeca Film festival. In the film, I share my unique point-of-view of ex-gay ministry (aka conversion therapy) as the former Executive Vice President of Exodus International, as do my friends, predecessors and former colleagues: Julie Rodgers, Yvette Schneider, John Paulk, Michael Bussee, and others. I share…

“Pray Away” picked up by Murphy, Blum, and Netflix

That Ryan Murphy and Jason Blum are quite popular fellas. I am still pinching myself after the news of these two powerhouse super-creatives picked up Pray Away, and it will be airing internationally on Netflix sometime in August. I have to say, as a long time fan of both of these guys, a wee bit…

The Amazing Magical “Straight” Male

Don’t get me wrong, I think all males are magical and amazing. Cis gender, trans, gay, straight, bi… unicorn… I don’t care males are magical. No more magical than women, queer or non-binary, but magical. Well, I guess this whole paragraph could be summed up in a single statment; every human being and unicorn is…

The Real Hidden Sin

A little disclaimer. I mention sex stuff in this post. It’s not graphic or anywhere close to written porn but it does mention how masturbation and porn were stigmatized in my past and the role they play in my life today. The post isn’t about those two things but thought I would let you know…