In the Bible, humankind’s first assignment from the Divine was to name everything. Whether I believe that Adam and the Garden of Eden ever existed or not, the symbolism/lesson is obvious. Names are significant to Christ’s followers and everyone who has ever lived regardless of religion or no religion. Names provide the anchor for our…
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Don’t Fret Susan, Jesus & I Are Great!
I have wanted to but wrestled with responding to this comment. However, I am going to because of the ex-gay/conversion ministry messaging in it; Susan E. writes: I read through your entire blog and it reveals that God is not and never was enough for you. Giving in to sin and justifying it before people…
A Couple of Thoughts Since The Release of “Pray Away”
Many topics and themes have come up consistently since the release of Pray Away Film last Tuesday. In this video I quickly address two of them: some hate from current exgay leaders and the sweet concern from many around the world for my welfare. Thanks in advance for watching and as always, feedback and questions…
“Pray Away” Director, Kristine Stolakis and Randy Thomas On NPR’s Morning Edition
I don’t think this is a movement of a few bad apples. It’s a movement that’s born out of a larger culture of homophobia and transphobia that still persists in the majority of Christian churches today. Kristine Stolakis, director of the Netflix documentary “Pray Away” Today Kristine and I are sharing about Pray Away on…
There’s More To Our Story During And After Filming With “Pray Away”
As the Pray Away project unfolded in its from start to finished film life, so did ours. For example, most of the footage included in the movie is with my first sit-down interview with Kristine in January of 2017. Dan and I had been dating for two months at that point. Now, a few months…
We Are Not Broken
“There is nothing to prove and nothing to protect. I am who I am, and it’s enough.” ― Fr. Richard Rohr Let’s start this article with something simple to say, yet so many of us have struggled a lifetime to embrace: *You* are not broken. *I* am not broken. *We* are human. We are beings…
Why I Chose To Be A Part Of The “Pray Away” Film
The “Pray Away” trailer is out, and the film will stream internationally on Netflix on August 3rd. If you haven’t seen the trailer check it out: I keep seeing people implying I participated in this project to make money or get notoriety. Neither is the case. I will address those two accusations and then get…
The Real Hidden Sin
A little disclaimer. I mention sex stuff in this post. It’s not graphic or anywhere close to written porn but it does mention how masturbation and porn were stigmatized in my past and the role they play in my life today. The post isn’t about those two things but thought I would let you know…
A Peaceful Disclosure – I Am Gay
I have read many stories of people who have “come out again” or accepted they are gay after some time in the ex-gay world. Many of their stories are compelling and well-written. But, sometimes I wish they would get to the point right off the bat. Just say it and then tell the story. So that…