Turning 50 Monday was my 50th birthday. It seems obligatory to say something along the lines of what a newly turned 50-year-olds should say. Something like, "Sometimes my body feels like 50 in the morning but my mind feels 20 all the time." It's true! How the heck did I get this old?! Ugh! So weird... Leading up to this milestone I have been …
Fear Will Not Win
One way the shackles of fear fell off my heart so I could find congruence between who I am as a gay man and a man of faith was to meditate on the Fruit of the Spirit: Galatians 5:22-23 states that the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control; against such things, there is no …
A Brief “Healthy Christian” Survey
Since coming out, some folks refuse to believe I am a healthy Christian and have lots of questions. I don't answer each time because the context is usually full of argumentative landmines. That said, some of the questions are good ones in their own right. Here are a few: How often do you read the Word of God? I have read it more than the millions …
Prayer: Blessing, Indoctrination, or Curse? What’s The Impact on Kids With LGBT+ Parents?
The other day I had my first mental argument with my partner's ex-wife. Dan and I have been together for almost 16 months. At first I just wholly avoided any talk about his ex-wife or what was happening with his daughter, The Magnificent Fairy Princess. It was not my right to do so. Now that we are further down the pike, I have become The …
When Finding a Church Home, What’s A Conservative Christian Gay Guy To Do?
With permission, here is a very thoughtful message I got from Mr. M. It's a bit long but I want to include all of it for context. I will parse it out and respond to each section. Hey Randy, I'd appreciate your perspective as someone who has walked the same path as I have. After many years of involvement in "ex-gay" ministries I have come to …
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The Scapegoating of Ex-gays
Ex-gays will repeat stigma and religious bigotry to fit into the conservative church, but they are not ever going to win over fellow church-goer because their "brokenness" is seen as so completely "other" than what the average church-goer goes through. There will be plenty of platitudes about "all sin is equal at the foot of the cross" and "no sin …