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A Tribute To Michael

Two years ago today one of the best friends a man could have, Michael P, passed away by his own hand. When it happened, his family, our mutual friends, all of us were shocked and completely devastated. I remember crying for what seemed like forever.

Initially, I desperately held on to a dream I had shortly after his passing that completely reframed the situation. In it, Michael came to me, held my hand, and we sat on a bench. He was radiant and he sang the most beautiful otherworldly song. I believe our Heavenly Father allowed that to happen so that I would remember the beautiful Michael and not let the tragedy of suicide define him in my mind. Holding his strong hand, hearing his amazing song. It was so clear, so vivid, and beautiful.

For the longest time it was hard to get past the mourning to remember all the good without sobbing my eyes out. This past year that began to change. Now I can remember and enjoy memories of Michael without being lost in the sadness. With 23 years worth of wonderful memories, I have more than the dream to bring to mind and focus on.

Michael and I dated for a few months at the beginning of our 23 year friendship but quickly realized we were better as friends than as a dating couple. I say that only because it reveals how much I trusted him, completely. He was an amazing man. He was always respectful, tender-hearted, attentive, and quick to help. He and our little crew taught me many life-giving principles including unconditional love. I honestly think it was with them that I first heard those two words ever used together as well as experience it first-hand.

Michael was also a magnificent blend of wisdom and hilarity. He would say something so profound and then just so… irreverent! I will *never* forget his great laugh. Makes me chuckle as I type this.

He also had an astonishing intellect/analytical side. I have no doubt that after meeting Jesus and checking in with the Archangels, one of Michael’s first appointments was to meet CS Lewis and the Apostle Paul at the Pearly Gates Coffee Shop. I imagined he had a list of topics to talk about and ideas they might want to consider :).

::: enjoying that picture in my mind :::

So, now the water-works start. The tears are coming from a loving place, a warm and grateful heart.

I love you Michael. I miss you so much my friend. I choose to celebrate your memory and continue to learn from you through our memories. I take comfort knowing the Lord has already wiped every one of your tears away and I look forward to hearing your laugh ring out in heaven.

…And you better save me a spot at the Pearly Gates Coffee Shop!

[callout]1381826_10151703408487734_841618918_nToday I am making a modest contribution to the Trevor Project in honor of Michael P. I am also going to make this a monthly pledge of support as well. From their website, “The Trevor Project was founded in 1998 by the creators of the Academy Award®-winning short film TREVOR, The Trevor Project is the leading national organization providing crisis intervention and suicide prevention services to lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender and questioning (LGBTQ) young people ages 13-24.”

Please join me in supporting The Trevor Project with a one time gift or signing up for their easy to use automatic recurring monthly support option. Thank you.[/callout]

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January 28, 2015 By Randy Thomas 8 Comments

Filed Under: Common + Unity = Community, OUTside The Stained Glass Closet

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  1. Will Byrd

    January 28, 2015 at 11:16 am

    Dear Randy,

    Our loving Father hold you ever so close to His heart of comfort and healing this day as you remember your beloved friend Michael. I pray a good day for you filled with unexpected blessing.

    With love,
    Will

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    • Randy

      January 28, 2015 at 1:40 pm

      Thank you very much Will.

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  2. katttt

    January 28, 2015 at 6:15 pm

    :'( Rest in peace, Michael P……and Randy, may the Father of all comfort hold you extra close right now!

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  3. Rhonda

    February 24, 2015 at 8:47 am

    I, too, love and miss Michael. Never will there be another like him in my heart, in my life. May Our Lord comfort you, Randy. (I’m a little late in letting myself grieve. But since I’ve recognized and accepted it, I pray for a good grief.)

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