With permission, here is a very thoughtful message I got from Mr. M. It's a bit long but I want to include all of it for context. I will parse it out and respond to each section. Hey Randy, I'd appreciate your perspective as someone who has walked the same path as I have. After many years of involvement in "ex-gay" ministries I have come to realize how negatively that experience has impacted me, my faith, my ability to find a community where I feel like I belong, and most importantly my relationship with Jesus. I recently ended a four year relationship. While there were other issues in our relationship, I know my experience in ex-gay … [Read more...] about When Finding a Church Home, What’s A Conservative Christian Gay Guy To Do?
Ex-gays will repeat stigma and religious bigotry to fit into the conservative church, but they are not ever going to win over fellow church-goer because their "brokenness" is seen as so completely "other" than what the average church-goer goes through. There will be plenty of platitudes about "all sin is equal at the foot of the cross" and "no sin is stronger than the blood of Christ." But in the practical day to day, the conservative church is very quick to say, "I have NO idea what it is like to go through what you go through with... you know... THAT struggle." Like the "scapegoats" in the Old Testament that had the sins of Israel placed … [Read more...] about The Scapegoating of Ex-gays
Some background, back in the Exodus days there was a very active blog with a very high volume of traffic called Ex-gay Watch. They were a "watchdog" group of bloggers that ripped apart (at least that's what it felt like at the time) anything and everything we, our member agencies or the "ex-gay" movement at large would do. They haven't been posting for almost two years but in their time... whew! From their about page: Ex-Gay Watch fact-checks political and religious movements which seek to make gay people straight. We provide critical analysis of the political tactics, religious rationalizations, research findings, health claims, and … [Read more...] about Ex-Gay Watch 2.0?
Received this email from K over the weekend. I will post the whole message (it's short) so you can see the full context. Then I will parse out each point they are making and respond. First, the complete message: Randy, I cannot begin to tell you the pain, hurt, and confusion that you caused me. I went to Exodus conferences. You were my favorite speaker. I have your DVD's from the conference. I trusted you. Now you are saying that everything you said, and all the promises you made, were all false. That may be good for you, but what about people like me? The ones that are now living with the fall out of what you did. Living daily with all the … [Read more...] about “What Are We Supposed To Do?” – An Exodus Supporter’s Confrontational Email
From 2003 to 2008 I would attend frequent meetings of a group called "The Arlington Group." They were the religious right leaders of the time (some still remain the main figureheads of their respective organizations.) We went to the meetings at the Family Research Council's building about once a month and would be in the same room as Jerry Falwell, James Dobson (Focus On The Family), Charles Colson, Tony Perkins (Family Research Council), Don Wildmon (American Family Association), Ted Haggard (before his "fall"), reps from the Alliance Defense Fund and any Christian group, media outlet, or activist with a national audience. I forgot to … [Read more...] about The Quiet Coup: Trump Sold His Soul to The Religious Right, Not The Other Way Around