On Facebook yesterday morning I shared about how Dan and I on Tuesday night were accepted, encouraged and celebrated among a crew of straight guys we met because of my future roommate (in a month). Tuesday night stood out to me as “this is what equality looks like” kind of moment. My Facebook post about the evening got more response than I expected. Here is an embed of the post:
One of the comments was from a man named Michael who said, “Finally, a good story! Thanks.” I love all the comments and reactions but Michael’s comment was echoing in my head all day yesterday. Facebook has always been a cauldron of easily brewed negativity with waves of cute puppies and cats from time to time. But as I thought of Michael’s comment, I was reminded how easy, and oftentimes lazy, it is to be negative and cynical. Heck, being snarky at someone else’s expense is rewarded with time, energy, attention, money and even considered entertainment (“reality” television.}
I am interested to see what would happen if we became so intentional to find and celebrate the good around us and in each other, that this approach would become our default. Maybe if it is already *your* default … GREAT! Spread your wisdom please because it is not our culture’s current default.
I don’t mind speaking up about important things that aren’t fun to think about or bring into the light of public discourse. But what if the “not fun” issues and topics weren’t allowed to only be contextualized by negatives and rewarded for being negatively energizing? That even when it is necessary to highlight difficult situations we are *always* intentional to bring the good and true as an emphasized point of context? What if we cast a vision for the greater good and contextualized our “future talk” with hope, and life-affirming vision. That instead of offering up snarky responses, we committed acts of selflessness and sacrifice for a glimpse at empowering the greater good?
Let’s continue to help Michael by looking for and highlighting more “good stories!”
Maybe this is too idealistic and not realistic. But whatever, I am going to try to make this approach my top priority when talking about … whatever… wherever. Again, don’t want to run from ugly or difficult, but intentionally emphasizing what is life-giving and/or beautiful.