Ex-gays will repeat stigma and religious bigotry to fit into the conservative church, but they are not ever going to win over fellow church-goer because their "brokenness" is seen as so completely "other" than what the average church-goer goes through. There will be plenty of platitudes about "all sin is equal at the foot of the cross" and "no sin is stronger than the blood of Christ." But in the practical day to day, the conservative church is very quick to say, "I have NO idea what it is like to go through what you go through with... you know... THAT struggle." Like the "scapegoats" in the Old Testament that had the sins of Israel placed … [Read more...] about The Scapegoating of Ex-gays
The Stained Glass Closet
Some background, back in the Exodus days there was a very active blog with a very high volume of traffic called Ex-gay Watch. They were a "watchdog" group of bloggers that ripped apart (at least that's what it felt like at the time) anything and everything we, our member agencies or the "ex-gay" movement at large would do. They haven't been posting for almost two years but in their time... whew! From their about page: Ex-Gay Watch fact-checks political and religious movements which seek to make gay people straight. We provide critical analysis of the political tactics, religious rationalizations, research findings, health claims, and … [Read more...] about Ex-Gay Watch 2.0?
Received this email from K over the weekend. I will post the whole message (it's short) so you can see the full context. Then I will parse out each point they are making and respond. First, the complete message: Randy, I cannot begin to tell you the pain, hurt, and confusion that you caused me. I went to Exodus conferences. You were my favorite speaker. I have your DVD's from the conference. I trusted you. Now you are saying that everything you said, and all the promises you made, were all false. That may be good for you, but what about people like me? The ones that are now living with the fall out of what you did. Living daily with all the … [Read more...] about “What Are We Supposed To Do?” – An Exodus Supporter’s Confrontational Email
As a senior attending Brentwood High School, we had one English teacher that loved to compare her red editing pen to an ax. She enjoyed chopping away at our essays and homework to "cut out all the deadwood." While her red pen nearly induced panic attacks when she handed our assignments back to us, I appreciated her wise counsel and teaching style. I only had her as a teacher for a little while before being transferred to another teacher (I forget why). I think her class sizes were far too large. Even though the new teacher was much easier, I missed Ms. Ax. She wasn't the nicest teacher, but she was the most helpful in explaining the … [Read more...] about Clearing The Way for New Growth
During Hurricane Irma's aftermath, I learned that an ex-gay/conversion ministry leader I used to work with is taking pre-orders for his self-published book. This leader created and distributed an in-house survey. This survey had no credible objectivity or scientific professionalism and was circulated to people who had been a part of his ministry in the past and present. Then he personally compiled the results of those who chose to respond (very much doubt many of those with a horrible experience answered) and is lauding them as proof that Jesus cures the gays. Keep in mind, this whole effort is self-created, self-directed, self-assessed, … [Read more...] about The Last Pedestal Falls