Today, Billy Graham ended his long run on this earth at 99 years of age. I have seen a number of posts from beloved Christian conservative friends who idealize the man. I have seen posts from beloved LGBT+ friends (Christian and otherwise) villainizing the man. Both groups have made some really good points. When I heard the news of his passing, I got a little emotional but the overall sense of peace realizing Mr. Graham is home with the One he loves the most, Jesus. I spent too much time hating Mr. Graham the first time I was out in the '80's. However, while I was in the church closet from '92 to '2015, I actually read a LOT about his … [Read more...] about The Death of Billy Graham
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With permission, here is a very thoughtful message I got from Mr. M. It's a bit long but I want to include all of it for context. I will parse it out and respond to each section. Hey Randy, I'd appreciate your perspective as someone who has walked the same path as I have. After many years of involvement in "ex-gay" ministries I have come to realize how negatively that experience has impacted me, my faith, my ability to find a community where I feel like I belong, and most importantly my relationship with Jesus. I recently ended a four year relationship. While there were other issues in our relationship, I know my experience in ex-gay … [Read more...] about When Finding a Church Home, What’s A Conservative Christian Gay Guy To Do?
Ex-gays will repeat stigma and religious bigotry to fit into the conservative church, but they are not ever going to win over fellow church-goer because their "brokenness" is seen as so completely "other" than what the average church-goer goes through. There will be plenty of platitudes about "all sin is equal at the foot of the cross" and "no sin is stronger than the blood of Christ." But in the practical day to day, the conservative church is very quick to say, "I have NO idea what it is like to go through what you go through with... you know... THAT struggle." Like the "scapegoats" in the Old Testament that had the sins of Israel placed … [Read more...] about The Scapegoating of Ex-gays
Received this email from K over the weekend. I will post the whole message (it's short) so you can see the full context. Then I will parse out each point they are making and respond. First, the complete message: Randy, I cannot begin to tell you the pain, hurt, and confusion that you caused me. I went to Exodus conferences. You were my favorite speaker. I have your DVD's from the conference. I trusted you. Now you are saying that everything you said, and all the promises you made, were all false. That may be good for you, but what about people like me? The ones that are now living with the fall out of what you did. Living daily with all the … [Read more...] about “What Are We Supposed To Do?” – An Exodus Supporter’s Confrontational Email
My new office! ::: Big Grin::: We are so close to announcing our new non-profit's name! We want to make sure all our ducks are in a row, and quacking, first. That said, I have pitched the organizational mission/vision/implementation ideas to several key folks. They have all been incredibly encouraging and supportive. Rev. Terri loved the idea of it so much she gave me this room at Joy Metropolitan Community Church to work out of. This was my first day to do so! It is the old youth room and a current makeshift storage area for the remodeling going on in another part of the church. I love it! We can play ping pong during brainstorming … [Read more...] about My New Office Is Amazing!