It was 1991, and I was waiting for the bar, Britches and Bloomers (yes, that was the actual name), to close. The DJ and I had been flirting a lot for a few months, and that night, when his DJ duties were done, we were going to an after hours party at a club in Dallas. The Book of Love was going to be there. My date was cute, fun, and exciting. The music went off, and the lights came up, my favorite blond bartender said, "Alright girls, get the f* out!" We walked out of this small dance bar with about 40 other people. The next thing I remember is a white pick-up truck with men crammed into the back came screeching up to the front door. They … [Read more...] about Together, We Won’t Let Hatred Win
Common + Unity = Community
Now that I am back on the liberal'ish side of politics again (after a 25-year hiatus in the conservative world) I've noticed something. I've noticed how people view the "other side" from this perspective is, in some cases, shockingly similar to the "side" I recently left. Friends all across the political spectrum have asked, "How in the world can 'they' willfully choose ignorance, spread lies, and deny facts?" Seriously, friends from all points of view have asked that same, almost verbatim in many cases, questions over the years. I certainly don't consider myself an expert in social dynamics but the following is based on my limited experience … [Read more...] about The Antidote
Yesterday was supposed to be my first time at an LGBTQ Pride Parade/Festival. Hurricane Matthew came along and hijacked the calendar, though. Orlando Pride has been postponed to November. Last year I wasn't ready to go to Pride, but this year I am. I haven't gone to any others in the state and wanted Orlando to be my first. Especially after this heart-breaking summer and challenging fall. The first time I was out in the '80's, I went to some pride type events (nothing like now.) They were fundraisers for HIV awareness and resources. I only went to a couple and barely remember any of what happened. They were nothing like what "Pride" has … [Read more...] about What Pride Means To Me: Common Unity = Community
A friend who I first met when he was 16 (with his parents) at an ex-gay ministry has been in contact again since I came back out. He is 33 now and a well-adjusted gay man. It's still shocking to think how it does seem like it was yesterday he was half his age when I first met him. I am glad he made peace with himself and eventually grew beyond what I was teaching back then. Graciously, he said that he looks back on our interactions as positive because it helped him communicate his true feelings and what he was thinking. I am glad for that. Also, in our last conversation he asked: How's your experience being back in the gay community for the … [Read more...] about What’s It Like Being Back In The Gay Community?